You both are having a great time and move things along into the bed room (or wherever else you might want to) as you are pleasuring your woman. She is in the throes of passion and things stop all of a sudden and she snaps out of it. Wondering what could have gone wrong? Well, it could be a number of things. While giving a woman an orgasm can seem easy enough, there are a variety of things that can change her mood in an instant, not allowing her to orgasm. So we spoke to a few women to find out about the 11 things you should not do while you are giving her an orgasm.
Tip#1: Don’t change your pace: This is one of the most common mistakes a man makes. Thinking that things will become hotter or steamier if you change it up is not always the right way to go. If you are stimulating her clitoris to pleasure her, know that a steady pace is key, so keep at it and your woman will orgasm like never before. Ideally do not change your pace unless she asks you to go faster, slower or change the amount of pressure you are applying.
Tip#2: Harsher is not always better: The moment she is about to orgasm is right there and you can sense it, wanting her to get there faster you pick up the pace, becoming harsher or moving faster, but know that sometimes this is what can do you in. So be gentle and don’t hurt her, apply only as much pressure as you think she likes. While a little bit of pain to go along with all the pleasure she is feeling can be a good thing, hurting her while at it will definitely not help.
Tip#3: It’s not something you have to get over with, so don’t rush: For most men foreplay, oral sex or the kissing that comes before penetrative sex is something they have to do to get to finally having sex. But you must remember that this is your opportunity to make her feel extreme pleasure before sex. It is also the time when you can make your woman orgasm multiple times and watch her crave for you even more (a big turn on!). So be interested in what you are doing and show her that you like it. Not being in the moment is a big downer. If you do not like doing certain things like having oral sex then talk about it before you start off. Knowing what you both are comfortable with will help a great deal.
Tip #4: If she helps herself it’s not an insult it is help: There are times when you are pleasuring your woman and she touches herself to move things along. Do not take this as a sign that she isn’t enjoying her time with you, instead understand that she is helping you. Feeling good, orgasming and enjoying herself is important and you can allow her that. So go with the flow. If it is something you are not comfortable, ask her what she would like you to do for her and follow her cues. Sometimes it is as simple as asking.
Tip#5: It takes time so try getting her in the mood first: It takes anywhere from ten to twenty minutes for a woman to orgasm and it does take some work. So if you don’t want to leave her unfinished, it is best you get her in the mood first. Kissing and touching her erogenous zones like her neck, collar bone, breasts, tummy, back, holding her, whispering sweet nothings into her ear, all go a long way in turning her on. So don’t dive right in, instead start slow and then build on the way she responds. Heightening her pleasure can be a simple act if done correctly.
Tip#6: Know where what is and touch the right thing: There is nothing worse than a man who does not know what goes where. While you don’t have to be a master at making her orgasm, knowing where what is, is essential. No woman wants her man poking around without a clue as to what works and what doesn’t. So know where the vagina is, where the clitoris is located, what kind of touch feels good and how you should do it. In most cases asking works well, but if it your first time around, make sure you are ready before you both get into bed.
Tip#7: Understand her cues: Heavy breathing, her arching her back, moaning are all cues that you are going in the right direction. But while these are some of the most common ways to tell if your woman is having a good time, every lady is different and her signals might vary. So learn to read her signals and then move forward.
Tip#8: Lust is very sexy: It is extremely sexy when you want to make love to your woman with unbridled passion and it is of course a big turn on. So show her how much you want her with your actions. Love her entire body and don’t simply focus on one area. Touching, caressing, kissing and titillating her desires is a great way to get her in the mood and ready to go.
Tip#9: Her vagina is not the only place that can make her orgasm: There is more to making a woman orgasm than stimulating her vagina. Incidentally it is her clitoris that is mainly responsible for the intense reaction, but know that a woman can have five types of orgasms, so go on change things up a bit.
Tip#10: I’m not done yet: It is a sad state of affairs when you stop before your woman is done. Be it via penetrative sex, foreplay or oral sex it is essential for you to realise that a woman takes time to orgasm and you must let her get there. It is worst when she is right at the brink of climaxing and you decide to finish up. So be patient let her finish and then ask her to do the same for you. If you are about to ejaculate during penetrative sex, try the stop start method to last longer in bed.
Tip#11: It’s not only about your penis: Most men think that it is only their penis that can do all the pleasuring but there is nothing further from the truth. Your hands, fingers, tongue and even your beard or moustache can do the trick. So don’t restrict yourself, and use all that you have to help your woman orgasm.
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