Motherhood changes you -- your views of people, of life and everything in between. Suddenly, life is all about this one person you made and you can't stop gushing over the mini you. However, a lot of people will not share your views and the way you see your baby. These people will often be your friends, who can't get why everything you talk about revolves around the baby. Also, you will hang with your friends lesser and lesser, no late night partying, no drinking and hours and hours of gossiping. So don't be surprised if some of your friends drift away. Also, you will feel the need for a new set of friends -- mommy friends. Why you ask? Here are a few reasons:
1. She will understand what you are going through: As said earlier, motherhood is hard. There's so much to deal with and very few people who understand what you go through. There will be suggestions that you lose weight, that you stop spending your entire day in sweats, people who won't truly understand why breastfeeding is so tiring. But a mommy friend will not only empathise, but understand exactly what you are going through.
2. She will love your babies like her own: I have an amazing mom friend who I can trust my baby with. My daughter loves swimming, I don't. Her son hates the water while she loves it. So she takes my daughter swimming while I take her son to the swings and slides!
3. Playdates sorted! Peer to peer interaction is important for babies to work on their social skills. With a mommy friend, you get a playdate for your baby too. Win-win!
4. You can share tips and tricks: Parenting does not come with a manual, and most first time moms are clueless about tackling parenting challenges. It is a great help to have a mommy friend with whom you can discuss parenting problems and share tips and tricks that work for you. Two or more mommy brains are definitely better than yours alone.
5. They get you, totally: Whether your child throws a tantrum in public or you throw a playdate while dressed in PJs, your mommy friend will never judge you, because like you, she goes through all this too.
How to get a mommy friend, you wonder? Well, join one of the social media mommy groups and meet up a few mommies. Friendships often bloom at mommy meet and greets!
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